While guys are generally up for sex whenever, wherever (regardless of the situation), women tend to need a bit more inspiration, according to Cindy M. Meston, Ph.D. and David M. Buss, Ph.D., psychology professors at the University of Texas at Austin and coauthors of Why Women Have Sex: Understanding Sexual Motivations from Adventure to Revenge (and Everything in Between). For a better understanding of how to get her in the mood, consider the following seven factors that Meston and Buss say affects a woman’s libido:
1. HER MAN’S APPEARANCE
Men are usually considered to
be the most turned on by visual stimuli (think about it: how many strip clubs
and adult magazines are actually targeted toward females?), but women are
actually quite turned on by a man’s face, body and movement as well, say Meston and
Buss. “Sexually,
women are attracted to men with masculine features, although not too masculine,” Meston explains. “A little light stubble is
usually a turn-on for women if it’s clean and well-kept. Body-wise, women generally find
men with a V-shaped torso or a high shoulder-to-hip ratio sexually attractive.
Motion is important, too, as women find athletic prowess and agility to be
sexual turn-ons.” The
bottom line: If you’d
like to get her in the sack, a good first step to take might be getting
yourself into the gym.
2. THE TIME OF DAY
Meston says that women are
very individualized in terms of when they most prefer to get it on: “In general, women want to
have sex when they feel their best — when they have energy, feel connected to their
partners, aren’t
distracted by work or stressful daily events, and when they feel sexy — and that may or may not be
at night.” In
order to figure out when a woman’s most likely to be in the mood, pay attention to the
times she seems the most energized and/or chilled out. Try thinking outside the
box — you
may find that she’d
love a post-jog quickie right before her shower!
3. CERTAIN SMELLS
Meston and Buss explain that,
for women, sense of smell is far more important than it is to men when it comes
to sexual attraction. Simply put: if a woman doesn’t like the way a man
smells, it’s
often a deal-breaker —
whether she consciously realizes it or not. The number one turn-off reported by
most women is — not
surprisingly — bad
breath, says Buss. A woman’s sense of smell also plays an interesting biological
role in what attracts her to a man, according to Meston: “Olfactory signals provide a
woman with a wealth of information about a man’s health, hygiene, and even his genetic makeup,” she notes. Pheromones — tiny airborne molecules
that humans emit from various glands in their body — can influence a woman’s desire to be sexually
intimate with a man. Male pheromones have been shown to provide information on
a man’s
symmetry, which is an indicator of genetic fitness and ultimately can determine
whether a man is genetically compatible with a woman. “For many women — whether they realize it or
not — scent
can play an important role in determining her willingness to have se x with a
man, given her ‘sense’ of whether they can
produce genetically healthy, strong children together,” says Buss.
4. HER GUY’S CHOICE OF WORDS
Often, what a man says is
more important than what he does when he’s trying to get a woman in the mood. “Offering compliments is
usually a sure-fire way of making someone want to get closer… although, if the
compliments come across as insincere, they will actually turn her off,” says Meston.
To score extra sincerity
points, make references to future activities you’d like to do together, explains Meston, noting that
showing signs of commitment can often be sexually alluring to women. Buss also
notes that a man with a sense of humor is also a sexual turn-on for the ladies:
“If a
man can make a woman laugh, it relaxes her and makes her feel that he ‘gets’ her,” he says, adding that a
good sense of humor also conveys some key qualities women want in a mate:
intelligence (it’s
hard to be witty if you’re
not too bright), the ability to gauge her emotional and social perspective
(a.k.a. having the mind-reading skills to know what she will find amusing), and
social verve or confidence.
5. THE NEED FOR REVENGE
In their research, Meston and
Buss found that many women had “revenge sex” with someone other than their most recent dating
partner to get back at a cheating partner or to “even the score,” as some women put it. “Some women hoped their ex would find out about it and
feel angry or hurt, and other women said they didn’t care if they found out or
not — they
felt better just knowing they had gotten revenge,” Meston explains. Why is the need for revenge such a
turn-on for women? “Revenge
can serve two basic functions,” Buss explains. The first function is one of
deterrence: just as bullies stop picking on victims who retaliate, cheating
partners sometimes stop their illicit activities when the other person
retaliates in kind. The second function of revenge is “reputation management,” says Buss. “Women who are scorned
sometimes suffer damage to their social reputation, whether they are cheated on
or dumped. Having sex —
especially if it is with someone who is relatively high in ‘mate value’ — can sometimes help to
restore a woman’s
reputation,” he
explains.
6. GENETICS
Women prefer men whose MHC
genes (or Major Histo Compatibility genes) are dissimilar to their own, because
this is the set of genes involved in determining an individual’s immune function. “Having children with men
who are dissimilar produces children with healthier immune systems,” Buss explains. “Astonishingly, women seem
to be able to pick this up through sense of smell, especially at ovulation, if
they are not on hormonal contraceptives.”
7. HER PHYSICAL HEALTH OR WELL-BEING
If you’re looking for a few good
reasons why she should have sex with you, there are countless ways in which you
can emphasize that “getting
busy”
would be a wise move for her health. “During orgasm, opiates — the body’s natural painkillers — are released, which can help decrease all sorts of
aches and pains for women,” Meston explains. Sex can also help maintain the body’s flexibility and
cardiovascular health, decrease anxiety, and enhance overall mood.
Additionally, Meston notes, having sex during menstruation decreases a woman’s risk of experiencing
endometriosis symptoms. Of course, sex (if it lasts long enough!) can also be a
good calorie burner, so you can always suggest it as a fantastic way to burn
off the chocolate cheesecake you shared for dessert.
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